Up until now, energy psychology in business has focused on just “fixing” the problem. So we clear the fears and worries that get in way of success. While this is important, it misses out the part about feeling aligned with our vision for business growth.
“Vanessa” came to me with the problem that she couldn’t focus on the vision of growing her communications business. Diligent and pro-active by nature, she wasn’t getting results to match the effort she was putting in. As a spiritually focused businesswoman, she sensed something else was happening. She couldn’t see what it was.
She used a telling image to describe how she felt running her business. In Greek mythology, Sisyphus was forced to endlessly push a boulder up the summit of a hill, only for it to roll back down again. Curiously enough, she felt the pain of pushing her business along in her shoulders. Vanessa had tapped and tapped by herself on these ideas, but wasn’t seeing any improvements. We decided to use Business Energetics to draw on her inner wisdom and find out what was happening.
Over the last 2 years, Paul Zelizer and I have co-created a tool to help people move forward with their careers and businesses with ease and sustained momentum. Business Energetics draws on an adaptation of psychotherapy tool Family Constellations and joins it with EFT. It is easy to use by yourself or in a session with another.
We draw a simple map of relationships involving you and others. By looking at the map we can identify where a relationship is tangled. It is then easy to use ordinary EFT to evolve this situation. Doing well in business rests so much on having healthy relationships. In Business Energetics we also let your inner wisdom speak up to guide you in your business or career. This wisdom comes from the client, rather than the therapist.
Vanessa and I talked a little about significant events in her parents’ work lives. Within days of her birth, her father experienced an astounding level of success in business. Much as he wanted to, he couldn’t be present at her birth because he was opening his first shop in a distant city. Within weeks of her birth came his first car ever. A couple of years later he bought a beautiful home for his family. Those first few years of business were some of his best. He would speak proudly about how Vanessa had brought with her new wealth. She was his lucky charm until the day he died.
We looked at Vanessa’s relationship with her dad in a constellation. In a constellation we can better understand the dynamics to important relationships with relevant people, dead or alive. In the constellation it became clear to her that she was standing behind her dad holding him up. All her strength was going to him. Usually in a constellation, it’s a parent’s role to support their child and they do this out of love. In Vanessa’s case the natural order was reversed. We tapped to smooth out this tangled up relationship.
Even though I thought I had to support him, and I did this out of love for my dad, I soothe and comfort myself
Even though I thought I was responsible for him, and forgot I was the child, I love and accept myself
Even though I’ve not had much energy for growing my business, I now choose to let my passion for my work show up in my life.
Vanessa left feeling like she’d shifted a major issue. What happened after was startling. A week after her session she was invited by a major media company to work with their team as a consultant to develop a product launch. She’d been seeking work with this company for a couple of years. Her previous attempts had come to nothing. Moreover, she was working more smartly, choosing projects that felt like the right match for her vision for her business.
Vanessa accessed the power of her inner wisdom using Business Energetics. She’d tried tapping on the pain in her shoulders and the story from Greek mythology, but hadn’t seen any results. When we found the deeper insight about her relationship with her dad she connected with an entanglement she’d not noticed before. Then it made sense to her why she was behaving as she was. After that one session she experienced a deeper level of ease and momentum in her business that let her move forward from merely surviving.
This is an example of how Business Energetics can help us find the deeper truths behind a problem, and empower us to find a healing solution that delivers an exciting result.
Sejual Shah is an AAMET Accredited Certified EFT Master Trainer and Advanced Practitioner in the UK. She helps execs with career growth and confidence issues. Since 2008 she has pioneered ways of delivering business EFT courses to large companies at home and abroad and loves coaching other practitioners to do this as well. She is the co-founder of Business Energetics. Her website is www.healthyinmind.com
From the EFTfree Archives, which are now a part of AAMET International.
Originally published on February 22, 2011.